“Tea or Coffee? ”
The servicing waitress asked me.
Uh…Tea.
“Green tea, please”
I responded while I flipped through the pages of the restaurant menu in the backward direction to see maybe anything would stir my appetite for ordering.
You could hear the chit-chat from the tables and the different sounds produced by the cutlery on the food and plates by their users.
Often, you’d hear abrupt laughter from the surrounding tables
And your nose would have picked the joint aroma of the different served food
Plus you’d seen the servicing waitress attending to people’s requests along with my wandering eyes across the pages of the menu.
Ok, I’ll just take tea and maybe skip the lunch for some snacks later on, I said to myself.
This restaurant is well-known for its good cuisine and the ambiance of its interior
And as such, different calibers of people from all walks of life patronize the restaurant
Especially, working professionals at midday – to eat, chat, and to take a break from the busy nature of their professions.
While in wait for my tea, I played with my phone – checked news updates, latest info feeds & flip game
Occasionally, I’d lifted my head upwards in view to the ceilings and framed artworks placed on the walls of the restaurant while also looking sideways in an appraisal mode of the people entering the restaurant
Just in my direct view, a medium-sized dark brownish colored insect flew from nowhere and stuck to a lady’s shirt that was two tables adjacent from my table
Guess what?
…you rightly presumed what happened afterward (Chuckles..)
Yea, on the instant, with a panic-stricken face and trembling voice
…she started screaming…agh, aghh, aghhhh…out of fear
A few seconds afterward, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the insect.
If you were outside this restaurant and have been able to see through the door
You would have thought she is break-dancing or doing a taekwondo martial art or something related.
Naturally, I have always liked amusement, but the incident was not the type of amusement I had hoped for.
Maybe I was at the wrong place at the right time, or in the right place at the right moment
Or whatever term you might coin up for this occurrence.
Anyway, there was a hint of amusement in the air…I presumed.
The lady’s reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky
While some shouted in high pitch in disgust…”What the heck!
At this point, everyone’s attention in the restaurant was drawn to the incident.
After a few attempts, she managed to push the insect away, but it landed on another lady in the group.
“Oh crap!” The second lady yelled
As she jolted away from her chair like a coiled spring pressed with an extensive amount of force
Causing the table spread to be pulled off from the table and the chair tossed over from the backward swing of her legs in a bid to stave off the insect stuck on her shirt.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
You could hear some gigglings somewhere in the room and some blank faces that appeared indifferent or just fascinated by the occurrence.
In the relay of throwing, the insect fell upon the waitress that was a few distances away from the incident.
You guessed rightly
At this point, our eyes turned towards the waitress as if we were in a theater and they were the performers.
We were all in rapt attention and I could bet what was on everyone’s mind…what is she going to do?
The waitress stood firm and observed the movement of the insect on her shirt
She stood still and kept looking at the insect
And with a keen focus on the insect on her shirt, she grabbed the insect with her fingers, walked gently and threw it out of the restaurant
You could see the clear sigh of relief across most people’s faces in the room at the waitress’s show of courage.
Drinking my tea in small mouthful amount slowly from the cup after the amusing scenario, my curious mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering…
“was the insect responsible for their theatrical behavior?”
“If so, then why was the waitress not disturbed? “
“Why was she calm and collected that she handled it near to perfection without any chaos? “
“Really, what prompts our varying reactions to disturbances? “
“Why do we handle the same disturbance in the same circumstances in extremely different ways in comparison to some other people? “
“Or what dictates our responses to unfair interruptions? “
Fact Note:
You’ll agree that it’s not the insect, but the inability of the two ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the insect that disturbed the ladies.
The clash of conditional or innate reaction and proactive response in play.
Proactive Response versus Conditional Reaction
I realized that it is not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me…
But my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
It’s not the shouting or negativity of folks that disturb you…
but your inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting or negativity that disturbs you.
Yes, you can’t deny the existence of the problem or disturbance…
but MORE than the problem, it’s your reaction to the problem that creates chaos in your life.
The two women reacted conditionally, as conditional reactions are often circumstance-based
Whereas the waitress chose a proactive response – responded proactively – a response well thought-out.
Of course, the urge to react based on the circumstantial happening is quite high in contrast to a proactive response,
which demands a switch in thinking, approach and varied perspectives from us at that particular moment.
And as it’s often said, what life does to us is 10%, and how we choose to respond is 90%.
Moreover, I have since personally discovered that choosing a “proactive response” demands a daily “continuous” cultivation of the required skills and judgment in the seemingly trivial things of life, business, and occasions.
So, think more than twice before you react circumstantially to an unfair interruption
And choose to respond proactively, as proactive response always trumps a conditional reaction.
Hence, how will you respond to the current disturbances and future negative life signals?
**a true-life tale that was observed by the author (Tosin Adebayo) and penned in a storied form
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